{pretty, funny, happy, real}

Why yes it’s another meme…

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A jellyfish washed up on our beach trip…it would be more beautiful in the water, but kind of hard to photograph. Still a wonder of creation to behold…

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Little girl in Daddy’s enormous t-shirt (it dragged on the floor).

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Little boy who was terrified of the water just a few weeks ago is in love with the beach. Happy boy. Happy mama and daddy!

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The world’s two laziest dogs. Ever.

Please join us in sharing!

Small Successes

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1) I have summoned up the courage to make both cheesecake and blueberry muffins from scratch for the first time…will let you know how they turn out.

2) I didn’t freak out too much when Jeff cut Shelby’s hair without  my knowledge and it turned out looking like he put a bowl on her head and cut around it. It is hair…it will grow out.

3) Joey has finally mastered pooping on the potty! He has even used the potty outside of our home multiple times now.

4) We had a date night! First one in forever!

5) I have started the spiritual bouquet for Kate Wicker and all of YOU have so graciously responded with your love and prayers!

Don’t forget: Small Successes is now hosted by Sherry!

It’s important for moms to recognize that all the small successes in our days can add up to one big triumph. So on Thursday of each week, we do exactly that.~Danielle Bean

A Thankful Woman’s Book of Blessings

1) I am incredibly thankful for the awesome swim instructor working with my daughter and older son. Not only is he trained to work with special needs children, he is excellent with children of varying abilities.

2) I am thankful that we live close enough to the coast to go to the beach daily if we choose and close enough to my husband’s parents that we can use their club pool. Summer is a little more bearable (the heat part at least) with these little joys.

3) I am thankful for a husband who has dedicated time to date nights this summer. Even if it’s just watching a movie together after the kids are asleep :).

4) I am thankful for the firefighters who have been battling two wildfires in our area (we have a county between each of the fires but we are getting the smoke and some ash). In this oppressive heat, it has been even more difficult, but they are persevering!

5) I am thankful for all of you! Especially those who have contributed and are contributing to our spiritual bouquet for Kate Wicker and her baby and family. I am thankful for the social media networks that have brought us all together. We are many parts but indeed one body in the Lord and this shows that! Much love and many blessings to all of you!

Please join Judy and the other lovely women for A Thankful Woman’s Book of Blessings!

Yarn Along

One of these days I am going to get my sister-in-law to teach me to knit so I can a)knit and b) share a project in this meme…but until then…

Right now I’m still plugging away at Jane Eyre. Love the book but it’s going kind of slow with all of our day trips which don’t lend themselves to reading because I have three toddlers who require constant supervision around water! I had Jeff pick  up Silas Marner at the library for me based on Ginny’s glowing recommendation. Just started it but enjoying it already. That last book is Julia Child’s The Way to Cook. I have a very soft spot for Julia Child because she was humble and she was a terrible cook which prompted her move into the world of French cuisine while living overseas. (My husband is a chef which, before you all start swooning too much is a bit of a blessing and a curse. A blessing because, he cooks. A curse  because, sometimes I’m afraid to try making something because he can do it better!) I am hoping it motivates me to try a few new things! Please join Ginny over at small things and Yarn Along with us!

Having children young…an issue of maturity or selfishness?

People magazine has run this article about singer Kellie Pickler saying she is “in no rush” to have children. Ms. Pickler is recently married, age 25 and in the article states she is not in a rush to have children and makes a broad sweeping statement that young mothers are not ready for the responsibility of having a child and equates having a child at a young age with a “fad.”

The commenters on this post are  rabid. “Having children is selfish,” they say. “I want more time to spend with my husband,” others say. There are a few who dare to post that not all young mothers fall under these sweeping accusations of young motherhood.

My issue with Ms Pickler’s interview is that, first of all, her comments are not specific enough. She refers to “kids” having babies. Is she speaking of teenagers or women her own age? Being that she says she does not feel ready for children, if appears her reference to “kids” is directed to men and women of her own age group. Which, to me, is disturbing on a number of levels.

First of all, maturity is not a matter of age. While I will be the first to say that teenagers should not be having children, if a man and woman are in their twenties and married, they may in fact be mature enough to have a child. The Church teaches us to be open to life (and I recognize not all people are Catholic, but I cannot speak of faith practices of churches to which I do not belong) in our marriages and to only avoid conception for the most pressing of reasons (but certainly gives us room to determine what that means within the unique circumstances of each individual marriage). By this rationale, couples who wish to “enjoy each other” for a few years before having a child do not exactly have a compelling reason to put off pregnancy and therefore, should not be married. I am actually in complete agreement with that statement. I know it is unpopular in today’s world, but I don’t apologize because what is “of God” is very often not “of this world.” Couples unable to have children, as long as they are remaining open to life,’s marriages are not considered invalid under this rule.

Secondly, selfishness is not a matter of age either. A selfish parent will be one at age 20 or age 40. Someone who is saying, “me, me, me, mine, mine, mine” in regards to either having children or preventing them is selfish regardless of age.

But the most disturbing trend I am noticing both in Ms. Pickler’s comments and many of those in culture at large is “it’s a choice, not a child.” Not only is this message pro-abortive, it is also pro-contraception and ignorant of God’s role in our lives. It is to say that we have complete control in our lives, not God. A child is an inconvenience not a blessing from God. And unfortunately, some of these couples who take this belief to heart are stunned to find out that when “they decide” that they are ready, their bodies may no longer co-operate. God gave us fertility and He allows it to us for only a limited time.

People have long bought into the lie that they can completely control their lives and destinies. It allowed us to believe that taking a pill or wearing a condom was the way to go. Or that if that pill or condom failed, having a life obliterated was the correct solution. In our culture of death, we have not just disregarded human life, but God Himself and His will. And that is true immaturity and selfishness at its core.